“People Do Not Understand How You Feel…”

One of the Hardest Things About Having Anxiety and Panic Attacks, is that the People Around You Simply Do NOT Understand How You Feel.

You tell them how terrifying a panic attack is and they think you are just exaggerating. You explain the anxious thoughts you have and they remark, “Hey I get stressed too”. You tell them that you wake each morning with a sense of dread, and they say “Oh come on, who is a morning person?”.

They simply don’t get it.

The weekend is coming up and your partner wonders why you can’t just go out for dinner with friends and leave your fears behind? What they don’t get is that sometimes you think you will actually die the fear is so intense and that your mind is in such a fog that you won’t be able to enjoy yourself for a minute.

You wish they could understand this – and when they don’t you feel alone and depressed.

I’ve got two things to say about this:

1. YOU ARE OKAY

Yes you have a problem that needs correcting. You wouldn’t be reading this right now if you didn’t. That’s why you surf the net looking for answers. That’s why you constantly worry if this problem is more serious than just anxiety. You worry about the scary bodily sensations and if you will always be like this. You get a jolt of fear at the thought of losing control in front of your friends or co-workers.

I know all this because I have been there. I have had the exact same thoughts and fears as you have had.

And you know what? It’s OK.

It’s OK because all of this is curable. All of the anxiety can be healed and no, you are not going to lose control or go insane and NO a panic attack is not going to kill you. It’s all OK because you are perfectly safe….

2. FORGIVE THEM

Forgive those that belittle your anxiety. They have no idea how terrifying it can feel. Forgive the doctor that dismissed your story and told you to just go home and try deep breathing. Forgive the friend who stopped calling because you no longer could go out. Forgive the boss who placed all that extra stress unnecessarily on you. Forgive them all because they just don’t know how difficult it is without having experienced it for themselves.

3. GIVE THANKS

Stop for a moment and tell your anxiety you are actually happy it is part of your life. That might be the last thing from your mind right now but anxiety will become your ally, not your enemy. Believe it or not, this problem will teach you how to be a BIGGER PERSON!

Anxiety will give you the greatest gift possible, greater self awareness. It may not feel like that now because you are in the eye of the storm but you will come through this and out the other side stronger.

You will WIN in the end.

It reminds me of a conversation I had a few weeks ago with someone who had completed the Panic Away program. She said after so many years of anxiety and panic attacks she could finally see the hidden lesson and gift of anxiety. She now had a rock solid sense of confidence that had not been there before. She felt her old self again. She won in the end and you will too.

Let me show you how to win…

Sign up below to my free 7 part mini-series on ‘How to End Panic Attacks and General Anxiety’. One lesson gets emailed each day.

There is no fee and no catch – just real life changing information all these people have used to end their anxiety. You can unsubscribe easily in one click if you want, so give it a go and see how much better you will feel in just 7 days.

To Your Success….

Barry Joe McDonagh
Author of www.PanicAway.com

503 Comments

  • Carol Whittaker Reply

    Thank you for offering such wonderful advice at no cost. Your care and compassion reaches those who cannot afford to get the care they require.

    Bless you.

    • Andrea Pahl Reply

      I want to thank Barry personally for the free and very helpful advice about panic and anxiety attacks! I really enjoy reading the emails and it is SO wonderful to receive them free of charge. I am paying for student loans, medical bills and just like everyone else, trying to stay afloat with basic daily needs and have never been able to afford the “anxiety workbooks”, classes, programs and the like. I am so very grateful to Barry and find his information very easy to understand and incorporate into my daily life! I hope all the kindness, compassion, genuine help and understanding comes back to him 10-fold!

      • Erick Reply

        Barry Thank you so much for all your support and information its been a great help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Mike Neira Reply

      It was good to receive your email. Joe, with Panic Away, I really do have my attacks under control. Check this out, on a yellow post-it, I have written…Observe-Embrace-Demand More-Trust stuck directly on the edge of my work pc monitor. I also have this post-it stuck on my car’s sun visor. My point? Complete success! My wife has even memorized the One Move technique to assist me.

      Thanks Joe. You just have no idea how grateful I am with your One Move Technique. It really is that simple, “trust”!

      Mike Neira
      Member since Sept. 2009

    • Malgorzata Reply

      Hi Barry, My panic attacks are gone!!!!!!!!!!!!
      Thank you for all your help!! All the best!!
      :))

    • Eugene Newton Reply

      Hello, Thanks for the email, that’s going above and beyond. Getting on your website has helped me tremendously and many thanks for doing such great work. I only have one thing to say and it’s going to sound weird but it’s true, at least for me. Reading the things on your website helped me understand the what was going on and it helped a little in controlling it. However, I have discovered a strange link in the severity of the attacks and drinking diet soda. It sounds a little strange but the first time I had an anxiety attack was in the heat of the summer and I had drank gallons of diet cola. One of my best friends had just committed suicide and I had what I thought was a heart attack or stroke or something. I spent three days in the hospital to no avail. Nothing was wrong with me. I continued to have these incredible attacks and would spend my evenings sitting in the hospital parking lot in my car. It was at this time that I read about a possible link between aspartame and anxiety. I quit drinking everything that contained aspartame and my anxiety slowly went away. A few weeks later I decided to drink diet pop again because I really like it and I thought by not drinking so much it wouldn’t effect me. I was never so wrong. After a day or two drinking limited amounts of diet soda my anxiety attacks came back with a vengenace. I have since sworn off the stuff and have had virtually no attacks. I have no idea if this will work for anyone else but it’s worth a try. I’ve been panic free for a couple of months now. I hope this continues. Even if it doesn’t help what have you lost? I would have everyone try this just to see what happens. The combination of knowing what is happening and how to deal with it with finding something that seems to be a catalyst has seemingly freed me from this nightmare. Thanks again for your work. Sincerely, Eugene

      • Jane Reply

        It wasn’t the aspartame (although that is carcinogenic), it was the caffeine in cola. ALL caffeine causes anxiety and depression. Diet plays a huge part in anxiety. Also ALL pharmaceutical drugs can cause horrendous suffering with anxiety and depression and should be avoided even antibiotics especially things like Flagyl which is horrendous. Even over the counter medicines can do it. Also most people’s yeast/bacteria balance is out because of antibiotics and you should drink lots of probiotic drinks like Yakult and eat a non yeast/sugar diet of meat (not processed), vegetables and eggs for a while.

        I began having panic attacks at a very early age and I have learnt so much about how to look after myself. Don’t drink or smoke either, VERY bad for anxiety.

    • Michele Maxwell Reply

      Hello Barry!
      My anxiety started at a very young age, I am now 39. I have never had a full blown panic attack, more of a chronic general anxiety/social anxiety. Physically, it has affected my vocal quality. I sound strained and feel a tight uncomfortable feeling in my throat. I went to an ENT specialist who scoped me but found nothing. I feel it is a symptom of my anxiety. Have you ever heard of this? It is SO frustrating! Since I already feel socially uncomfortable most of the time, this vocal strain makes matters worse. My husband is very patient most of the time, yet I am sure it frustrates him when I isolate. I want to be free like I felt before all this. Any advice? Yoga and deep breathing do help but it is deeper than that. I am very critical of my self, like I often feel guilty even when innocent. Hypnotherapy has helped some but I can no longer afford it…so expensive!
      You are a blessing to many and thank you for your kindness and empathy.

    • Aleksandra Reply

      I am so please to get such a wonderful letter from you dear Barry,you know how we feel and think,this is just amazing.I couldn’t win without medications even I try so hard.I am taking 3 different medications for anxiety and believe me I am doing good,my worst fear is now past,this was elevator.I was using stairs for 3 years till one day but I was on antidepressants.I call my pills life savers and I will take them all life.I am taking Cipralex 30mg,Wellbutrin 300mg,Clonazepam 0,5mgx 2 a day.I have no side effect thanks God except dry mouth and I fell very relaxing.I become more positive and I am building my self esteem .I get step by step but so far I didn’t fail.Thanks to Cipralex.I hope all of you can win without meds!In my journey I didn’t have any support so I finally figure out I am only one who can help myself.Once I start feeling sorry for myself and stop expecting from people help my attitude change and I become mad on myself.I prove myself and others I can do it without anybody help.First time I step in elevator,my nightmare I was so so happy,there is no words to explain.For someone is funny for me mean victory!
      If I can do it,you can do it too!

      Love you Barry!

      • Tatiana Reply

        Hi Barry, thank you very much for your “follow up”. I used to look around at people and think to myself – how come they are all normal, and I am so unfortunate to have these panic attacks and anxieties. After reading these stories I feel not that isolated. There are other people around having fears of using elevators, being in planes… I’m still working on my problems, but your “Panic Away” course helped a lot. Thanks to all people for sharing their stories – it helps to evaluate my fears better.

    • Rebeka Reply

      Thanks for the info Barry its so true people dont realise how awful panic attacks and general anxiety are. Sometimes you wish people could have them just so they understand. Its great to know there are others out there who suffer or have suffered in the past, and that its controllable or even curable. Im looking forward to starting to achieve this.

    • CGS Reply

      Thanks for making a very dark day a little brighter. . .

    • Jennifer Reply

      Thank You Barry for your Newsletter, it something I needed to hear, I had been feeling the anxious and nervous feeling, and wondering if I was going to have those feelings for the rest of my life, I even thought maybe there is something else that was causing this, but I know it is due to the anxiety, because I only feel these feelings when I focus on them or think about them, so thank you Barry for giving me more insight, it is always comforting and helps me to understand what I’m feeling and what I need to do to get myself through this, Thanks with the wisdom that God has given you to share with other’s.

    • Kelly Reply

      Barry,Thanks for the encouraging email’s! I’ve been suffering with panic attacks for almost 2 years.I’m almost 23 and I have seen professional’s and they didn’t give me any information that i was looking for like you did. .I felt very uncomfortable telling this stranger details about me when they have never went threw it.They tried putting me on medication and i told them no.I didn’t want to take them the rest of my life. So i goggled how to stop panic attacks and it popped up panic away. I thought maybe i should a take a peek and see if this would work.It really does work i’m so grateful to have found this. Please keep the emails coming . Bless You.. Kelly

    • Cindy Reply

      Everything that is said in these newsletters is exactly how I was and still sometimes feel. I am coming out a stronger person and they made me realise one thing. Iv all the violence and abuse I have put up with in my life from a young child, out of all that the biggest fear I carried around was my own. I am my worst own enemy. The past cannot hurt me now but my own fear can if I let it. These emails is what kept my going insane I think. So thankyou so much. If it wasnt for your help I dont know what I would of done. Noone else understood and I though I was going luney. Thankyou.

  • ava Reply

    Hey joe barry, I do feel alone sometimes,as if I can’t tell anyone how I really feeling because they brush of my feelings away as if they or even I don’t matter. I’ve come to terms with my anxiety attacks years ago when I was a child,but now that Im grown and I don’t have my mother to comfort me as often anymore, I’m starting to fEel a little out of control. Thank you for this email ’cause I keep telling myself it going to be okay,and I know it is… Peace

  • Julie Tufano Reply

    Thanks for the encouraging email! I had a situation this summer where I experienced a long period of anxiety that was misunderstood in my business (my partners thought I was trying to slack off and not work!) I was trying to work but was unable to concentrate and was not very productive. I worked through this situation with some medication and your program. I know that I will struggle in some way with anxiety the rest of my life (it is the way I am wired) but have grown so much and have accomplished so much that it will not rule my life the way it once did! Thanks for sharing your story and techniques – it has made all the difference!
    Julie

    • Yinka Reply

      I appreciate the help.I hope it works.The depression comes when I least expect it.

    • gloria griffith Reply

      Thank you for your emails. they have helped so much. I ordered your program and llook forward to receiving it. But i have to say your emails have been wonderful.

  • Hilary Reply

    It has been over a year now since I purchased the full Panic Away programme and followed it faithfully. My life has turned around, no more prescription drugs and a full life again. I don’t want anyone to think it was easy, it wasn’t, but my family were supportive and the programme really works. I also don’t want anyone to think that I don’t have anxiety now, but I know the signals and I now how to deal with it and I understand my psyche much better than ever before.

    I have loaded the One Move Live and the Deep Release Relaxation audios onto my iPhone and although I haven’t needed to play them for many months, they are my companions. In fact, earlier this year I had a long overseas trip to manage by myself. I was 10 minutes into the first leg of the trip when I felt a really heavy duty panic attack hit me and almost had to abandon the next leg of the journey. I sat in the transit lounge listening to the Deep Release Relaxation audio and was able to continue my trip and enjoy the holiday of a lifetime.

    I’ve been meaning to say thank you but I’m so busy living, after so much misery that I just haven’t given it due thought.

    • Bob Moore Reply

      I’ve put the mp3’s on my iPhone as well… really a life-saver for the wee hours.

  • John Evans Reply

    Thank you Mr McDonagh for your last news letter.

    May I first say that to know that there are fellow anxiety sufferers out there
    makes my journey just a touch easier although I would not wish this on a single
    soul.

    Over the past two years since I signed up to your newsletter you have expressed
    succinctly and sympathetically much of my own experiences and indeed at times
    I thought that you were writing about me.

    I felt compelled to contribute to this blog as part 3 of the last newsletter is where
    I am at now. We all have our own individual journeys with our ‘black dog’ but for me
    how you describe this attitude to panic and anxiety will hopefully be of encouragement
    to others. I am a man of new faith but will not evangelise. However, your point that our anxiety
    maybe a gift rings very soundly with me. If I may. I find that I am able to be much
    gentler and sympathetic in certain situations. My heightened sensitivity makes me
    able to see through a persons ‘survival shield’ when for all and sundry the brave face
    deployed depicts contentment but internally something else is happening. My inner
    battle dissuades me from being judgemental and any words I share are mostly
    thought through.

    There are times when my self analysis becomes tiresome and I often over think
    situations. However, I am becoming more comfortable with myself as the months
    and years go on and can more often than not laugh at myself. I haven’t beaten this
    yet, maybe I never will but for the first time in my forty odd years I have some semblance
    of peace about me.

    I hope and pray that others are sharing a similar journey and I implore you to keep up your
    newsletter which for me has been a great boon.

    With kindest regards

    John Evans

  • Dean Fenton Reply

    Thank you for your message
    I would like to try your ideas 🙂
    Please feel free to continue to message me 🙂

    Dean Fenton

  • N.J.Bond Reply

    Thanks for offer info the bold step that we alley our enemies . Needed concept it is one based on sound ideas .All conciouse and creative souls can use it to maximum advantage. It is the balance not eradication of certain things what we are always wrongly taught in our massified university opposites are opponents. You are kindling the creative thoughts rightly focusing on the current issue that this world is struggling . Further sensitive peoples problems are speicalised one you are attending it .Great.

  • Terri Reply

    I just want to say thanks for your recent email. It has been a while….. 😉

    Anyway, I just want to say that your encouragement came at a great time! As life is changing quite drastically at home (divorce). The same day I received your email was the same day we got word that we have an offer on our house. Which means I will be taken out of my ‘safe place’ with my two children and going it somewhat alone. Fears of finding a new job (as I work for my husband’s family from home). People really don’t get it. It’s not just the anxiety we fear but EXACTLY how people take ‘us’ which severely increases the issue. There is a lot of judgment out there just like you said in your email. Fears of not being able to keep it together enough to take care of my kids without the safety net of a ‘whole family’. I appreciate your encouraging emails as it re-inforces that no-one is alone in this journey!

    P.S. I have read your book but it’s packed….

    Terri

    • Simon Reply

      Nice words Doug

  • Doug Reply

    It has been a long time since I have contacted you, this is because I have actually been going and doing, and trying to juggle elder caretaking, part time job, handyman jobs, and the mileage has started racking up on my vehicle.
    My breakthrough was when I practiced YOUR Series, and FACED the fear even when it felt like I was being enclosed and couldn’t get a full breath. My brother is in a nursing home about 30 minutes away from home and I decided I am going to drive there by myself and get him for a day of visiting at home. About half way there, (which was already out of my comfort zone) I started getting the nagging thoughts, and of course the adrenalin started to kick in causing the physical symptoms of not being able to breath all the way in, weakness in my upper arms, and finally the out of body thoughts came into play. I said OUTLOUD and in a stern voice, “GO AHEAD AND KILL ME BECAUSE I AM NOT TURNING AROUND TO GO BACK HOME!”
    I also started turning the thoughts around, if I die I will go to Heaven, and all this will be over FOREVER.
    It was that very day that I made my transition to becoming a valuable member of society, but most of all, a valuable vessel for my God to use to help others.
    There is a reason why we go through these battles in our minds, it is to build our character, to show us what we need to change about ourselves. When you love yourself enough to face the fear head on, and go INTO the fire with head held high, sword outstretched and ready for battle, it is THEN that you truly find who you really are and what you were meant to be.
    We are made in God’s image, and if a God of such magnitude and omnipotence can perform miracles such as, oh, let’s see, CREATING A UNIVERSE, then me, as His creation has the ability to do great things as well. God doesn’t make mistakes, none of us who are suffering or suffered from panic and anxiety disorder are mistakes, we are chosen TO BECOME GREAT PEOPLE. People who have come through the fire and be able to tell others that the fire did not even kindle upon our clothing.
    I know what thoughts rise up when you read things like this, “I don’t want to have to battle this anymore, I’m so tired of having to battle this everyday, I want this to stop.” The truth about the matter is, It is when you face it and battle it that you will be free of it. Trust me, I KNOW.
    Thank you Joe for your inspiring words that immensely changed my life. May God bestow riches upon you that you cannot even contain!

    • Tony Reply

      Nice Doug,inspiring to say the least.

    • Susan Reply

      Thank you for that post. I’ve never looked at my anxiety/panic in that way before! You’ve given me a lot to think about and put into action. I too have great trouble with traveling and panic. Most of my children live far from me and I’d like nothing more than to visit with them and my grand children, but I don’t. I can’t make myself get on that bus or train (I don’t drive and I’m terrified of flying) and just go to see them. I’m disgusted with myself and this darned disease! I suppose though that once I’m more disgusted than afraid I’ll be ready to take that step.

      Bless you!

    • Lj Wilson Reply

      Dear Barry,
      I do thank you for an email every so often.I signed up for the mini series and then ordered the whole course. The audios have been particularly helpful. The best thing is that it gives me hope and it is nice to know that I am not going crazy.

  • PAMELA Reply

    Hey Barry many thanks for all your help, i’ve really taken on board the free advice you’ve offered me, and it does really work. I suffer from m.s. and my anxiety attacks are an everyday problem which is totally draining on top of everything else with this disease! I’m at university now and working through my anxiety everyday, without your wise advice I don’t think I’d be as far on as I am now, and you’re right about it making you a stronger better person, I’ve had to face alot of my fears and the anxiety is just a small gremlin now instead of a huge out of control monster! Thank you for providing a very valuable and appreciated service 🙂 Kind regards, Pamela 🙂

  • Jose paredes Reply

    Thank you for all your help!! I really appreciate

  • Mark Reply

    It worked. 🙂

  • John Akapito Reply

    Thank you for the encouragement. I haven’t had any attacks lately, but I am not going to stop learning about the anxiety for my sake and the sake of my loved ones and those who might need my help one day.

    Thank you,
    John

  • Cait McCarthy Reply

    Thanks for all your great advice,
    I was wondering why I hadn’t received a mail from you in some time.
    It’s good to know that someone understands and has advice to share.
    Good work.

  • Tony Taillon Reply

    All you say is so true,ive been living with this condition for over 10 years and believe you me,if i didnt have my daily shot of Paxil (10mg),i think id be dead,lol,you know what i mean.Telling people this is not always easy,imagine telling this to a buddy,they look at me funny everytime i try to tell someone about it,as if i was strange or somethin,but im used to it now.I have had two major panic attacks in the past 2 years do to trips ive taken,and sometimes i feel anxiety the day after a small bender(i know i shouldnt drink but anyway).I think the two of them ive had on trips were simply the thought of maybe getting one,made me get one.You think everything is just fine and then BOOM,it hits you like a smack upside the head.Its a sickening feeling i wouldnt wish on my worst enemy.I really try hard to work on myself and use tools such as your thoughts and others to help,and by God,you do help me.We are not alone living this and there is a lot we can do to improve our skills on beating this nasty beast,just reading people like you makes me feel so good.This is the first time i actually write to someone about this and it feels good,especially to people who understand,i really appreciate your thoughts on the subject and i thought i should let you know —- We Will Prevail,lol Tony.

    • Geri Reply

      Thank you very much for the email, comments, and also everyone else’s blogs and comments – they help me to realize I’m not a freak and not alone in this.

  • Felipe Reply

    I have read all the texts about panic attacks but would like very much not to forget me please !! Hope to receive more texts and information about dealing with my panic attacks. THANKS ALWAYS AND GOD BLESS YOU FOREVER !!!

  • j. Reply

    Thank you for sending this to me today. I really needed to read your words. Sometimes I feel a new self-awareness can be a stress in itself. Yesterday was a wonderful day at home cooking, cleaning, feeling at peace, picking up my daughter at school and taking her for an after school snack and appointment. However, my new cell phone was on quiet mode, and I missed calls from my younger daughter who was waiting for me to pick her up and her friend at 5. I didn’t look in my purse til 5.20. I almost had a panic attack, but my daughter’s friend’s mother came and got them at school. I felt so stupid and guilty as I was 5 minutes from their school and just forgot to look at my phone as I thought I would hear it ring. My daughter, her friend and the mother were sweet and laughed it off, but I feel like it drilled a hole in my heart. Somehow time and forgetfulness give me great anxiety as I am a single mother and responsible for busy schedules for both my daughters.

    • Kim Reply

      Hi j”,
      Don’t be so hard on yourself! I am the same way. My son is 24 now..& I was a single mom too when he was young.
      Love & Blessings
      Kim

  • Corneliu Reply

    Thanks !

    Currently I am under treatment,but I am afraid that after that the attacks will appear again….So it is important to know how to protect myself…

    Corneliu

  • Jodie Reply

    Thank you for understanding !!!

  • Dodo Reply

    simply a big THANKS. Thanks for your time to help people in that situation.

    God bless you.

  • Paul Reply

    I bought your program about two years ago. I don’t know if I ever thanked you but I certainly should have. I have my life back and seriously I have directed anyone I meet with this problem to your web site. Strange but I’d never heard of this problem until it had gotten it’s grip on me. Then a few people I know have this problem but had keep it to themselves. Thankfully I’m not the type to take things lying down and looked for a way to beat this thing ,whatever it was. I am very lucky to have found your site, thank you again.

    Lately I have been slightly regressing in some areas but I keep using what I have learned and it helps a great deal.

  • Geri White Reply

    Your description of a panic attack was right on!! No, people do not understand, and they make jokes about it. I am very careful who I share my thoughts with.

  • Sylvia Fales Reply

    Thank you for being such an inspiration to all of us. I am in the general anxiety stage now,. Because of your program I am able to do things that I did not do for a long time. I have a ways to go but with your help I am going to beat this .
    Thank You
    Sylvia Fales

  • dave sowers Reply

    Keep the info coming.I have “accepted” this stage of my life and don’t worry as much as I used to but deep down I know I’m not living my life the way I could…Struggle with the religious aspects of what I read and am told as well…

    Thanks,
    Dave

  • Beverley Reply

    Lucky for me I don’t have panic attacks so bad that I can not leave the house or go out with friends, my issues are more work related. I feel if I am put on a spot at a staff meeting or asked to read something I will die. For me it is very physical my coworker say he is unable to tell I have heard this before but what I am feel at that time is exhuasting and certainly can not be very healthy. I seem to do okay most days and lucky for me we only meet about 6 times a year.

  • Jo Marlu Reply

    Hi,

    Just wanted to let you know the information I have received from you has been very helpful and is always in my mind when dealing with my panic or anxiety. I still do not feel all that skilled or brave at inviting a panic attack but I am definitely less consumed by them. At the moment I am dealing with my 13 year old daughter having extreme anxiety and it is very difficult. Having said this though it is good to have the knowledge I have and the experience as I feel I can actually understand her and so that means I can support her well.

  • liz thornton Reply

    Thank you so much for your Email.I am well and truly over my terrible distress following an appalling episode with my tooth implants.If my acupuncturist had not suggested I get in touch with Joe barry I think that I would have suicided!
    I knew that my teeth were the health problem and yet it was not admitted by the dentist concerned .I landed up with nightmares and difficulty breathing and then so frightened that I welcomed a car crash. I felt all those emotions that joe describes and it kept me sane.I refused anti depressants and went back to my old Yoga practise of drinking 1 tsp. himalayan salt in 500 mls of warm water.first thing in the morning.from an Ayurvedic perspective this strengthen the nervous system.I just felt that I needed one thing I do each morning that would keep things moving while I worked on my thinking .
    I am so lucky that as an ex nurse and Ayurvedic practitioner I resisted the wants of people around who thought that I should go the road of medication.I found joe and his support helped lift me out of that horrible dark place
    I bought the book although I was so excited with the emails that I had already come along way and it is wonderful that joe will share his experience free.I must have spent hundreds of dollars seeking help.

    Thank you Joe once again and good luck to all who benefit the way I did.

  • Michael Williams Reply

    Barry,since we last spoke i eventually returned to work in june 09 until MAY 10 when i proceeded on 321 days pre retirement leave ,I went into total relaxation until recent when i do seasonal private work.I have made remarkable improvement with the change of environment but at some intervals i start getting the old feeling especially if i overeat.With this relaxed routine i feel more into my self but i will continue seeking your advice,it did help alot so i will be on line bye.

  • Brian Reply

    OCD is a horrible illness, and in all honesty I don’t know if I would have overcome it without medication. Over the years, it was getting worse and worse, and my OCD therapist just didn’t seem to get it. Luckily, however, he did medicate me correctly, which I feel may be down to luck as much as anything else, but there you go. For people suffering from OCD induced panic-attacks, I cannot even begin to tell you how much I understand your God awful plight, however, that said, I actually find it near impossible to remember just how bad it was for me at it’s very worst. Supportive parents were an absolute Godsend, and I will spend the rest of my days trying to show them how much I appreciate it by keeping my particular case of OCD.

  • MARIO ERWIN T. BILLONES Reply

    oh! i almost forgot to give you thanks for the good thing your program had brought to my life. but to a great pleasure, here you are sending me more tools to combat the biggest obstacle to my happy life: anxiety.THANK YOU VERY MUCH! for your program really did cured me: 80% since i still have those in a lighter mode which i am able to overcome whenever it attacks. and most important , I’ve gained my weights since my learnings from your excerpts. Thank you once again. I would be very happy receive some more from you BRO.

  • Mrs T Davis Reply

    This is to let you know i want to receive the information I didnt know how to reply to last email message. t davis

  • Christy Simpson Reply

    I just wanted to say that this mini series that I got in my emails helped me so much, you will never know. I conquered my anxiety (along with the help of God) in 4 months. Ironically, as I started to get better the emails became fewer and fewer, and by the time my anxiety was completely gone, the emails had stopped. I am so thankful that there is help out there for people who struggle with something that is rarely talked about.

  • M A Sajjan Reply

    of all the tips/details/analysis/remedies/copeup techniques I have come across, yours stand out.

  • Suhas Sanadi Reply

    Your words, intreprets that you really feel how anxiety tortures a person, really sometime I feel that I will go insane, free me from the anxiety at the earliest.

  • Marwan Reply

    Dear Barry McDonagh,
    Thanks for continuing correspondence for Panic Anxiety attacks. Being a Medical Doctor Myself I can easily understand relapses in some diseases charechterized by relapses and remissions like Eczema (dermatitis), Arthritic pain and Peptid ulcer bleeding; But what I really found it difficult to understand is that A Panic attack after 3 years of remission can recur or relapse under a difficult or stressful situation.
    I am now preparing for my PhD with many limitations in accessories required to make My research satisfyingly successful at least to me. Here and at the very precise time when I am needing my whole Intellectual and physical activity to be at Maximum level, comes a recurrence of sever distracting dizziness without prior notice with Palpitation and chest tightness as if I am living inside an Horror movie and if any person talks to me I hear his sound with a loud echo that tmakes it difficult for me to follow the conversation.
    So I don’t really know what to do?! Should I quit my PhD project… What a shame and I can assure no one in the university knows what I am suffering from. Should I progress anyway and NOT think about obstacles?!.
    Should I tell My supervisor who will probably then think I am not qualified for the Project???!
    If you can help me please do not hesitate because I feel like I have started something assuming nothing bad will happen and then there it comes again Abdominal discomfort with severe dizziness.

    • Barry Joe McDonagh Reply

      Marwan , I would suggest you stick with it and get as much support as you can from people around you. Tell people what you are experiencing and that will lessen to burden you are carrying. You will move through this and the inner sense of achievement will be even greater as you gain your PHD

  • Jenny Haddrell Reply

    Hi Jo
    Thank you for your news letter it came just the right time, I have a very dear friend who has just been diagnoswd with cancer and it has depressed me and caused me a lot of anxiety so it was nice to hear from you (as always).
    Thank you for caring
    Regands
    Jenny

  • Robert Reply

    Thank you

  • Catherine François Reply

    Your method has helped, specially if its a mild one. Should you care to give additional information I would be glad to read it. Quite frankly I don’t have a rosy picture of any part of my anxiety attacks. It has been a long strugle and I think they are partly the cause of my asthma. However, thank-you for your suggestions.

    Regards,
    Catherine François

  • ram Reply

    thanks for your expert advice.surely i have also got more self awareness and feel a lot better as you told , i knowthat nothing is going to happen as our thoughts tells us.
    thank you

  • Adam Reply

    You’re book and emails really are incredible. The way you describe everything is dead on. I have been dealing with panic attacks and general anxiety for about 4 years now. It truly is something that is impossible for people to understand. I have gone from feeling that I am about to die, that I am just plain crazy, to just extremely embarrassed. My whole life I have been outgoing and worry free and to have this slip up was very difficult to deal with. I have gone back and forth with medication and it really does help for times I am really struggling, but my goal is to be medicine free.

    Since I have had anxiety I have come across some friends and others who are also dealing with it. The first thing I do is send them your book. It is just such a relief to read and have someone explain exactly what is happening to you.

    Although the panic attacks are terrible and sometimes just mentally wear me down, their is something empowering about riding one out. Thankfully I am blessed with a wife and family who try their best to understand what I am going through. The way I see it is, if this is the worst thing I have to deal with in my life, then I am very lucky.

    Just wanted to say thanks for your work. It really is amazing!

  • Helena Loureiro Reply

    Thank you for sending me this message.
    It is exactly how you describe it; it’s a feeling of pre- death, so horrible, so painful and they don’t understand us, no opne understands it unless they have experienced it.

    I will be thankful if you go on keeping in touch.
    Image, I live so far away; I live in Lisbon, Portugal .

    Best regards

    • Erica Holmbom Reply

      Thank you so much for your positive e-mail. I recieved it today in my hour of need. I still have my problems with anxiety its as if I´ll never be free from it. But you give me great hope and I look forward to hearing from you again. its a big handicap in my life, I start a new job on monday and I´m terrified that something bad is going to happen because I really need this job. Im really hoping for a miracle.

      Kindest regards Erica/ Gothenburg Sweden

  • Suad Alhabshi Reply

    PLEASE, Keep sending those comforting emails.
    regards.

  • Seema Reply

    My Dear Joe,
    I really appreciate that u have wonderful ideas to fight a fear and anxiety attack. with your sincere help and that also, free of cost, helped me a lot to overcome my phobia. I hope u will continue sending me nice helpful mails in the future too.

    Thanx a lot

  • Hadya Reply

    many thanks Barry, I will look forward to your msgs

  • Steven Reply

    Thank you for the past emails.

    It is nice to know I’m not alone in this, I feel like I’m so alone with this in the real world.

    Yes I have family & friend & girlfriend, but feel like I’ve worn them all out if I go back.

    I’m still searching for a cure at 38 year of anxiety even lost relationships with it, it’s like a demon that won’t leave me alone.

    Cried many days and nights alone.

    Thanks for the support so far, I feel like a lost soul at times even though I have heaps of confidence sometimes I see people in the world pulling me back.

    Soft sensertive loving caring

    Steven :0)

  • MARIA Reply

    thanks so much for all your information.

  • Jack Reply

    This is exactly how I feel and how people around me feel about me. I have forwarded this to people around me, who have no ideas what so ever about anxiety and panic attack and hope they will understand more and think differently…

    Thank you! Please keep in touch.

    You have a wonderful holiday season coming up.

    Jack

  • Jack Reply

    You know how much happiness it feels like when someone really understands what you are going through and struggling with? A lot! And happiness will defeat anxiety…

    Your advice is truly help. Thanks so much !

    Jack

  • Anne Howell Reply

    Thank you so much for your e-mail I was very surprised to hear from you as it was 2007 when I first got in touch with you. I am a lot better now but I still suffer quite a lot with Anxiety and Panic I have to deal with it most days. However your e-mail has been very welcome as I have just had quite a bad week and what you say about partners and other people not understanding is so true. I have started to believe that having this will make me a stronger person please send me your e-mails as they help a lot and make you realise you are not the only person suffering, and it is very hard not to feel sorry for yourself sometimes.

    Many Thanks
    Anne

  • Emma Reply

    Thank u Thank u Thank u.. I’m so happy to find someone that share his wonderful thoughts with me. They are really working,,

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