“People Do Not Understand How You Feel…”
One of the Hardest Things About Having Anxiety and Panic Attacks, is that the People Around You Simply Do NOT Understand How You Feel.
You tell them how terrifying a panic attack is and they think you are just exaggerating. You explain the anxious thoughts you have and they remark, “Hey I get stressed too”. You tell them that you wake each morning with a sense of dread, and they say “Oh come on, who is a morning person?”.
They simply don’t get it.
The weekend is coming up and your partner wonders why you can’t just go out for dinner with friends and leave your fears behind? What they don’t get is that sometimes you think you will actually die the fear is so intense and that your mind is in such a fog that you won’t be able to enjoy yourself for a minute.
You wish they could understand this – and when they don’t you feel alone and depressed.
I’ve got two things to say about this:
1. YOU ARE OKAY
Yes you have a problem that needs correcting. You wouldn’t be reading this right now if you didn’t. That’s why you surf the net looking for answers. That’s why you constantly worry if this problem is more serious than just anxiety. You worry about the scary bodily sensations and if you will always be like this. You get a jolt of fear at the thought of losing control in front of your friends or co-workers.
I know all this because I have been there. I have had the exact same thoughts and fears as you have had.
And you know what? It’s OK.
It’s OK because all of this is curable. All of the anxiety can be healed and no, you are not going to lose control or go insane and NO a panic attack is not going to kill you. It’s all OK because you are perfectly safe….
2. FORGIVE THEM
Forgive those that belittle your anxiety. They have no idea how terrifying it can feel. Forgive the doctor that dismissed your story and told you to just go home and try deep breathing. Forgive the friend who stopped calling because you no longer could go out. Forgive the boss who placed all that extra stress unnecessarily on you. Forgive them all because they just don’t know how difficult it is without having experienced it for themselves.
3. GIVE THANKS
Stop for a moment and tell your anxiety you are actually happy it is part of your life. That might be the last thing from your mind right now but anxiety will become your ally, not your enemy. Believe it or not, this problem will teach you how to be a BIGGER PERSON!
Anxiety will give you the greatest gift possible, greater self awareness. It may not feel like that now because you are in the eye of the storm but you will come through this and out the other side stronger.
You will WIN in the end.
It reminds me of a conversation I had a few weeks ago with someone who had completed the Panic Away program. She said after so many years of anxiety and panic attacks she could finally see the hidden lesson and gift of anxiety. She now had a rock solid sense of confidence that had not been there before. She felt her old self again. She won in the end and you will too.
Let me show you how to win…
Sign up below to my free 7 part mini-series on ‘How to End Panic Attacks and General Anxiety’. One lesson gets emailed each day.
There is no fee and no catch – just real life changing information all these people have used to end their anxiety. You can unsubscribe easily in one click if you want, so give it a go and see how much better you will feel in just 7 days.
To Your Success….
Barry Joe McDonagh
Author of www.PanicAway.com
isabell
thaks barry for taking the time to mail me youur help is great
Kim
Thank you so much for that email… It really helped me this morning! I am going on 15 years now of this!!
My faith in CHRIST is the ONLY thing that gets me thru!
You are such a blessing.. I have nobody who understands, or they think they do….. but they don’t….
Famous words of family::: “Just don’t think about it!!” “Why are you thinking about it?” When I hear this it makes me want to scream! LOL Forgiveness is the best way you are right. Harboring all that anger is damaging and I believe only adds to the anxiety in some way..
Blessings..
Kim
florian carazo
thank you very much for your concern,may god bless you.its a good advice and i really need it. feel relieve now and hopefully i can conquer my fear
Deana
Thank you so much for the info I am taking
Xanax 0.25 daily to come me down cause
It came a point where I couldn’t control it
Or eat anymore. But I am hoping it’s only
A short time
marie concett
thanks so much for the great advices you gave me, it helps me a lot, oh god knows how much. yes i would like to contiune receiving advices for anxiitey problems. god bless u always.
catherine leyden
thank you so much for taking the time and effort to send me all those invaluable informations.I do appreciate the fact that you do not insist in payment of any kind.However I would be very interested to receive a book with all the anwers to this awful problem rather than aCDV.
I like to read rather than watch.Would this be possible and in this case how do I go about obtaining it ?
Many thanks again ,
hope to hear from you soon
Catherine
Kananelo
Thanx so much for your newsletters, they made a whole lot of difference in my life. Right now am writing this while on holiday in Zambia Victoria Falls something I never thought I would do. Am more confident and am able to deal with stressful situations much better. I realise now that am not sick am just getting stronger and all of us who have been thru this are the strongest because we had fight the battle from within
Keep me posted
Maddie
Thank you is just not enough to say, but thank you…. you have giving me and my daughter hope, and solutions, you are so right, the program does work, it has been so very eye opening for us, and yes I feel a new me being born, and I love life, and yes I know I am a better and stronger person… I know you know what you are talking about, it’s the expressions you use, I know you have been there, that allows me to trust, and I watch me and my daughter go from scared people, to people who are willing and brave, and the gains have been wonderful….
we have had so many AHA moments we had to laugh,(through the tears) with each passing day we are more and more ourselves….. Now the sounds, colors, smell, and just the movements of life are such a joy…… I will be forever grateful….
[email protected]
i just want to say thank you so much burry and god bless you
bury it hard to Ber im in struggle and despair for the last thirty year’s
my life is gone as waste my its negative comment and i hope im not discouraging any body
is just how i feel about my self
Nimshi
Thank you for your sweet words its like a soothing song dear Barry. I know there are so many people who suffer from this and your are doing a massive humanitarian work i should say. You are so GREAT! Keep it up!
Lynne H Cook
Thank you for your program, I am still struggling with panic issues. I have read the information in your program and it has truly helped, but I do believe if you receive additional support from your family it would really help you have the confidence that you along can not give to yourself. Thanks to you, I have not started on any medication. I am looking forward to your upcoming information
Chere Thompson
I really enjoy reading your emails that you send out. When my anxiety was really bad, your emails helped me through a lot of it. My anxiety and panic attacks started after a car accident that I had. I think I went through a big period of post tramatic stress. But of coarse doctors will never tell you that is what is going on. They said I as having anxiety and panic attacks, and put me on a product called Alprazalam (? not sure of the spelling). I worked for a little while, but then didn’t work. Was still dealing with a lot of anxiety so the doctor decided to put me on Cetalapram 10 mg. It worked for a little while and then I started having trouble pain in my head. They said it wasn’t from the meds and to keep taking it and try uping the dose. Tried that and that was a nightmare. I was so sick. Decided to see a Nutrionist and she got me off of the medications and onto a natural supplement. Which made a world of difference. I am know taking a natural supplement called DSF. That works great. Helps keep my body more relaxed. I still get a little anxiety from time to time, but nothing like it used to be. It would be great to get rid of it completely.
Thanks.
Chere
Rashid Javed
I stopped predicting a panic attack. More than 50% of my problem soved. Do not predict anxiety or panic attack. This is your prediction that starts this attack.
Anette
Dear Barry, I meant to write much sooner as I bought your One-Move-Method program last year in May. It was 4 days before one of my many flights. I had developed flight panic a few years back in Germany and it seems the fear grew stronger over time. My work and our living situation requires me to fly so I knew I either give in – which I find unacceptable!!! or to do something about it as we all know how terrible fear can be. So I bought the online version, read through it and two days later I had to fly. I tried it and already when I read your program, I had to laugh about the bold and yet so easy approach that I almost could not wait to try it out. And….it worked!! I was so confident and knew that whatever happens on this plane, I will not die, I will not suffucate, I will be JUST FINE. What a relief to read your sentence that the worst panic attack is behind us as it was the very first one we had. I truly want to thank you as you have transformed and changed my life and my outlook. I don’t know how others feel, but the thoughts in my mind were such as ‘what if this gets worse and worse with every year’, ‘what if I reach a stage where I cannot leave the house anymore’. Just thoughts, however, we all know how powerful they can be – that’s why I was in this mess. Anyhow, I have prayed for you and hope, others make the step and learn from your experience and users like myslelf. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. One other thing that happened along with being able to fly without medication and fear is that I stop thinking about fear. It just is not a big topic anymore as I know I will be just fine. Great concept!!! Is your program available in German? My sister-in-law has anxiety attacks and she needs to hear from you (not me) how to end the cylce. Sincerely, Anette
Anie Stevens
Dear Mr. Barry,
Thank you for making me strong, thank you for your advises and the support you provide through your email letters. With all my heart I appreaciate it so much your kind help that your provide to all of us who experience anxiety or panic attack. I wont forget you and May you have a wonderful blessed day everyday and God Bless You and Your Family. Thank you again.
Respectfully,
Anie Stevens
Rebecca
Thanks Barry…your email came right on time, strange how that happens. I didn’t even realize I was suffering from panic attacks or anxiety (well, did realize I had anxiety, just not to the extent i do) until recently. Your email described perfectly what I deal with on an almost daily basis. My husband stays up late…computer is right next to the bed, new set-up. Anyway, he never understood when I tried to tell him how I felt and about all the fear but, lately, he is up while I am sleeping in the bed next to the desk, and he said he really is starting to understand the extent of the problem after watching me sleep. He says it’s like I am not even sleeping and says there’s alot of talking, movement, crying, fear ect…going on all night. I’ve told him for years how nervous I am when I wake in the mornings. He told me he tries to comfort me by talking to me and massaging me while I sleep but, It’s not going to take care of the problem and help me start to heal. I am looking forward to learning
more from you. I feel like it is a God thing that I recieved your email when I did.
Thanks so much,
Becky
Klio
Thanks for the kind concern and your new mail which has given me lots of pleasure. I have been to every place you describe, I know and I do not fear that I am not OK, I have forgiven, have appreciated the good things in my character that stemmed from this dreadful experience I have had for 15 years now ! After a 7 year personal psychotherapy program, 2 years of group dramatherapy and still on medication (cipralex 20mg daily an d 0.25 xanax) I can cope very well and I have an almost normal life, BUT, I cannot even think to travel alone to places farther away than 60 miles from home and most of all I cannot visit my son who studies abroad if am am not accompanied by either my husband or my 74 year old mom!!! This makes me feel imprisoned and frustrated. Only the thought of THAT feeling of drowning, nonexistence and insecurity keeps me away from so many things that could make me happy!!! Ouff!
nasser
thanks you helped me very much, by sending me this letters. but i am trying to be free of medicines because i have been on (cipralix 10mlg) for about 4 years, and in the last year i dropped the amount to 5mlg. but in the late 3 months i started to fell the attacks again. after reading your e-mails i felt better and they encouraged me to stop the medicines.
Jess
Thank you so much for sending another letter out. When I had first realized my problem, I went crazy looking for free solutions and help, and I came across your email services. Every time I got one, I could feel the panic lifting off my shoulders. What was even better is that over the summer, we had to take a trip to another state.. a few days before we left, I recived your letter about the Fear of Flying service, and read them all. They helped me so much. I had stopped receving letters for a while, and my anxiety wasnt such a problem. Within the last month it has been starting back up again, and I had your emails in mind. I reread them, but had hope there would be more.. and then I saw this. It was exactly what I needed to hear, it’s exactly what has been happening. And its all true, and so helpful.
Once again, Thank you, and God bless you for helping all these people, including me.
jason fraser
Thank you so much Mr. McDonagh,
I’ve been practicing faithfully the anxiety control 20 second countdown. eventually ending my panic attack… I’ve been weening myself off of the two generic prescriptions of celexia, and ativan… which is slowly helping myself regain some of my confidance as well. I still sufferw from the panic attacks when I slip into an overly-depressing day through financial build up, missing my loved ones, or over-eating… but like you’ve convinced me, I still manage to pull through. I am not on facebook anymore, but thanks to you constant email newsletters I feel as though I’ve already found hundreds of friends because of you… it’s nice to feel like I’m not alone anymore 🙂
Thanks, Jason
Michelle
Hi Barry,
Thanks for you email, seemed to come at just the right time. I have a couple of
extra really stressfull things to get through this week including taking over the
managers possiton at work whilst she’s on leave. Woke up today feeling very
wound up after not worrying about this respnsibility for a month. It’s good to have
some possitve imput, becuse no one else understands how hard this is for me.
thanks for being a caring person.
Michelle.
kitkat
Thank you so much for you valuable advice. May God bless you forever.
Every word has has helped me immensley. I am learning to control my fear and it is working. The only problem is that I have high blood pressure and diabetes and when I do get the attack, I feel as though the blood is going to go out of my ears and nose and I start shaking and gasping for air. Please help me deal with this situation. I do not take any medications because both are usually well controlled through food and exercise.
Thanks a million.
Sanja
Dear Barry,
thankes you a lot for this letter, it came to me just in right time. This few days I feel so bad. I do not have panic attacks, I suffer from forced thinking and obsessive thoughts. My worst thought is that I am mentally sick or that this my problems are going to be the bigger and in the end that I will loose my reason. Please tell me does this your advices relating to this my problem. I certainly thank you very much and God bless you your book was very helpful for me and I believe that my suffer from these problems is not in vain, but I thank God for it and I believe that this will do a better person from me. Please continue to send me letters.
Sanja!
Peter Twomey
The roughest times are always at home. When I’, busy, at a store, or at work my problem is much more managable. But, put me at home and the anxiety rises. Even the thought of going home makes my anxiety rise. Any thoughts? Anyone lese have this difficulty?
Anthony
Feeling better than ever!!!
Lily
I am 21 years old and have been battling with these feelings since I was a child. I was so desperate when I came across Panic Away. I was ready to try anything. I thought the whole thing looked like a scam. Even his name sounded a little fabricated. I am an educated person. I have a 4.0 and take my work very seriously. I don’t fall for scams. I was really very hesitant to spend the money on his book. It is quite expensive, but I am so grateful that I found it. I have not had a single panic attack since I started reading the book. I love the emails on days when I forget that there are so many people who feel the way that I do. I appreciate life so much more now that I know what it is to truly live. I know that many do not even think to try to find help until much later in life, I can’t imagine trying to deal with the pain everyday for the rest of my life like so many told me I would. I still have days when the dread starts to creep back in. Today has been one of them, but I just continue the techniques, read the emails, and do my own personal therapies, like yoga. Many of the women who attend my yoga classes have similar anxieties and problems that they have been battling for ages. Not one has found something so successful. They were all very intrigued by Panic away. I would say that it is a must read for everyone, panic sufferers or not.
Kim Pike
Hi there,
Thank you for sending me the E-mail on panic attacks.
I have suffered them for 2 years now following a split with a controlling partner.
I am making a recovery but still not quite there.
Will be nice to recieve excerpts from panic away.
Best Wishes
Kim
lotus
Thanks for your words of inspiration and healing.
omar
THANK U. NOW THE ONLY THING MAKING ME ANXIOUS IS HOLDING ONTO GRUDGES….WORKING ON IT!
Debby
wow thank you Barry.
I received your mail right now with this excellent advice. Before I opened up your mail, I was having horrible thoughts about going insane and nervous.. about to have a panic attack.. and there was your mail.. poof.. there.. for me to read.
The relief after reading your words? I cannot thank you enough..
I am in the beginning stages of your course and cannot wait to learn more. Thank you. hugs
Nelly
I want to thank barry joe for his wonderful words of advice. It is very comforting to hear. I cant thank you enough. God bless you.
Maria
i wake up afraid… i sleep afraid… throughout the day i try my hardest to be relax to not be afraid but the fear within is overpowering i’ve had amazing people tell me im strong enough to overcome it but i fear i fear whats on the other side of this…. ive had panic attacks and manage to control them and when i feel at my highest point i break down in fear is it the feeling of courage of independence of responsibility that breaks me… i dont know all i know is im tired of being afraid im tired of falling into this cycle i will break it because you and my family give me courage because i have decided this fear will not take another day of my life
ophelia
wow!! gosh you had me in tears with the help and all that you said is so true. You are so nice to care for me and what I need. I can assure you that through your sending me what you do…I will never give up!! In fact your so correct on what you know as if you are with me or something its amazing…you do give me hope. I thank you with all my heart and most of all for thinking of me in helping me through this….my goal is to write a success story and I know I am almost there…I will master this if is the last thing I do. A million thanks to you Barry. You are a angel!!
Ophelia
Joe De Faria
Hi Barry,
Thanks for your continues support.I have been a lot better since my last ordeal a year ago.
Being in the construction buisness there is no job security,because I built a new house &
bought a prestige car it trigged my problem.Putting your therapy into motion I now enjoy
my car, which I was about to sell it back & loose $20,000,I try not worry about were the next
job will be.But some times my body goes into a nervines feeling,which I have learnt to cope & deal
with.Thanks once again.
val
hi,Barry,thank u for your care and advises.it is so good to have somebody,who make your life better.thank u for warm attitude.
fam
you are doing a great job…….. man, you are one of the best author, keep up the good work and send me some great tips…. plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz….
ervie
thanks a lot Barry! you’re a blessing to people like me. I’m doing quite ok now, I’m taking medications and still read your advices. wishing you good health so you can continue to help others…
J Hunter
Hi Barry,
Thank you for your weekly newsletter. I was diagnosed with anxiety about 12 months ago. Didn’t know what hit me but it was a very terrifying moment in my life. I had had 3 weeks away from work and like your newsletter said that is exactly how I felt. I aliniated most of my close friends as I was too tired to go out and was terrified of all the bodily sensations that i felt every time, I thought of the worst but since I signed up with your newsletter I have tried to deal with every situation by putting into practice what I have read. I still have my moments but at least I can now deal with the situation. I look forward to your newsletter every week.
Thank you and keep up the good work.
Best regards,
Jhunter
Alvalene
Thanks again and again for the reassurance, it is so good to talk to someone who understands. I have heard the words ” PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER ” so many times by those who don’t understand. You have been more help to me than you can imagine, and I am so grateful to you for your help.
Barbara
Dear Barry:
Thank you for your e-mail. Please continue to e-mail me.
I’ve been tormented by panic attacks since 4 years and completely burnt out because of tremendously stressful events in my life that hit me both spiritually and physically. I’m afraid I’m loosing my internal strength that has allowed me to cope with my rapidly deteriorating physical condition caused by my severe anxiety, for which I couldn’t find cure/help despite many desperate medical attempts.
I try to keep my hope, and I pray….
With all due respect and gratitude,
Barbara
Ps: English is my second language.
Linda Harvey
I want to thank you for the help you are providing for me and others who suffer in this way. I have found it refreshing that someone totally understands how I feel. You are a good man. God Bless
manali ranjan garge
its really awesome.
kumar maharaj
dear barry thanks a lot for your precious advice its really recomforting and i have full confidence in what you say its really great to have a friend like you i weish you could visit my country sometime you are most welcome at my place keep in touch regards.
kumar maharaj
dear barry thanks for your advice its really great to have a friend like you regards.
Vanessa R. Santos
Thank you very much, you are so kind. You perfectly describe my ordeal with this illness that I have right now. Your thoughts has awakened my already hopeless self. I feel relieved and anxious kindly share with me those empowering things that you have mentioned. Hoping for your quick response.
Sincerely,
Vanessa
annette
Hello All
It makes me feel so good to read these posts and to realize I am not alone with my fear. I am so sorry so many people have to deal with this beast, but it is also good to see so many are healing with your program.
I especially have had to deal with people that do not realize how much I suffer with panic. Only people who suffer KNOW what it is really like to lose all control. To be confined in my apt because I am so engorged with fear, to lose out on social engagements because what if….. Addictive medication almost killed me, it works so well but coming off it was something I hope never to go through again. Now I take an anti depressent (celexa) and an anti seizure medication (neurontin) to keep the anxiety at bay. But as others have said, these are also not the answer. The meds make me feel yucky. And again I am getting addicted to another med. Not as addicting as the benzos were but still a med that will cause problems when I stop taking it.
Your emails are welcomed, and I am getting better slowly. I am not seeing a therapist because it seemed that his goal was to prove to me that I was not having panic and that what I was feeling was normal.
Bless you and all the lovely folks that respond to your mailings.
kami
thanks for your emails .they are great , helpfull
Neil Mcfarlane
THANK YOU BARRY for emailing me and i just want to tell you that i really appreciate your response. You’ ve assisted me with being a bit more comfortable with this condition and i would like hear more of your advice so please feel free to continue emailing me.
Linda
Thanks Barry, I needed your email. My anxiety has not gone away. I have not looked at your program in months and your email reminded me that I need to find it and use it again. Your kindness is very much appreciated. Now I’m going to find the program and start back on it!!
Rob
Hi Barry,
I feel i need more help getting rid of my anxious thoughts.
I have bought the programme and it has eliminated my panic attacks which is amazing.
I still have anxious thoughts and i have read all the info but it seems to be getting worse. My worst nightmares just keeping going round and round and i cant seem to move on.
I have followed all the advice and i am finding it hard not to react as i am so scared by them. It is making me confussed. when i dont react they are still there constantly. I feel like i dont know who iam anymore and i dont like be around people.
I really want my mind to stop racing and thinking bizzare thoughts that me feel constantly uneasy and on edge. i feel like i am going crazy.
Please help if you can.
Kind regards
Rob
reese
Thank you so much for emailing me it means more to me then you know.. there really need to be more carring people in the world like you.;) thanks.