“People Do Not Understand How You Feel…”
One of the Hardest Things About Having Anxiety and Panic Attacks, is that the People Around You Simply Do NOT Understand How You Feel.
You tell them how terrifying a panic attack is and they think you are just exaggerating. You explain the anxious thoughts you have and they remark, “Hey I get stressed too”. You tell them that you wake each morning with a sense of dread, and they say “Oh come on, who is a morning person?”.
They simply don’t get it.
The weekend is coming up and your partner wonders why you can’t just go out for dinner with friends and leave your fears behind? What they don’t get is that sometimes you think you will actually die the fear is so intense and that your mind is in such a fog that you won’t be able to enjoy yourself for a minute.
You wish they could understand this – and when they don’t you feel alone and depressed.
I’ve got two things to say about this:
1. YOU ARE OKAY
Yes you have a problem that needs correcting. You wouldn’t be reading this right now if you didn’t. That’s why you surf the net looking for answers. That’s why you constantly worry if this problem is more serious than just anxiety. You worry about the scary bodily sensations and if you will always be like this. You get a jolt of fear at the thought of losing control in front of your friends or co-workers.
I know all this because I have been there. I have had the exact same thoughts and fears as you have had.
And you know what? It’s OK.
It’s OK because all of this is curable. All of the anxiety can be healed and no, you are not going to lose control or go insane and NO a panic attack is not going to kill you. It’s all OK because you are perfectly safe….
2. FORGIVE THEM
Forgive those that belittle your anxiety. They have no idea how terrifying it can feel. Forgive the doctor that dismissed your story and told you to just go home and try deep breathing. Forgive the friend who stopped calling because you no longer could go out. Forgive the boss who placed all that extra stress unnecessarily on you. Forgive them all because they just don’t know how difficult it is without having experienced it for themselves.
3. GIVE THANKS
Stop for a moment and tell your anxiety you are actually happy it is part of your life. That might be the last thing from your mind right now but anxiety will become your ally, not your enemy. Believe it or not, this problem will teach you how to be a BIGGER PERSON!
Anxiety will give you the greatest gift possible, greater self awareness. It may not feel like that now because you are in the eye of the storm but you will come through this and out the other side stronger.
You will WIN in the end.
It reminds me of a conversation I had a few weeks ago with someone who had completed the Panic Away program. She said after so many years of anxiety and panic attacks she could finally see the hidden lesson and gift of anxiety. She now had a rock solid sense of confidence that had not been there before. She felt her old self again. She won in the end and you will too.
Let me show you how to win…
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To Your Success….
Barry Joe McDonagh
Author of www.PanicAway.com
lbrahim
i cant married and i lose all my friend becouse the social phopia and also cant travel becouse of the airport!! its destroy my life .. thanks for the great words
ahmed yahia
many thanks my best friend for the last masseg wait for more pls don’t late for long time
Gabe
Barry,
Your latest e-mail was a blessing, since it gave me assurance once more that everyhing will eventually be better (I was having one of those anxiety moments when I received your e-mail). I just need to try harder and follow your advice. All of your e-mails have been very helpful and I greatly appreciate what you’re doing.
God Bless you.
Gabe
Comet Mekonen
Thank you so much for helping me with my panic issues, some of the methods you teach me have been instrumental in helping me reshape my life.
Julianne
Thanks for your email, haven’t heard you for a while. Your newsletters are so reassuring and helpful but I wonder if I am gonna go through the rest of my life like this. I live alone now and I hate it. Since I had my first panic attack about a year ago I find that I hate being alone. When I’m in company I forget I suffer from panic attacks because I’m more relaxed. I don’t have severe attacks like some people who are afraid to leave home, I’m the opposite….I hate being at home. It’s really hard not working and having to be in a house all day, but I find that keeping busy really helps. I know someday God will heal me, just got to trust Him and have Faith. I will be praying for my fellow panic attack sufferers also.
Tony Kwan
Dear Barry
Your program was my first companion since I was inflicted with Anxiety Attack since April 2010. It has always provided me with so much assurances that I am fine, I will be alive, I have nothing to fear, I will grow stronger day by day, I will definitely recover, I am not sick, I am a fighter , I will still wake up well and good the next day inspite of what goes on in my mind. Your program has indeed help me a lot especially the 3rd stage of recovery – PERSISTANT SEALING RECOVERY. It has helped to constantly remind me to grow in strength and confident which I did.
Finally, I recovered in August 2010 , after 4 months being a “SURVIVOR” and I won the race. By constantly reading your program on a daily basis, I gained strength and recovered.
PANIC AWAY PROGRAM – It will always be my companion besides my faith in my GOD.
ester cantong
I wish to thank you for your patience in sending those informative E-mails. I really learned a lot and benefitted from it. Please know that all information you’ve been sending me has been shared to my friends.I really appreciate your help. It was also useful in my profession being a guidance counselor.
dorina aurellana
Thank you for the benefits of your efforts. I’m so excited before when i found this site which is very popular especially to agoraphobia or anxiety disorder you know, if i’ll go to office and meet by chance by my office mate or friends somewhere i feel nervous then i can control it now because only myself can control this. I never taking any medicine to relieve my pain. Thanks to you it works! God speed.
Liza
Thanks Joe,
Thank you for your latest email. It always makes me feel so much more positive when I receive them and wonderful to know that I am not alone. I have been so much better since I received your course but am still not ‘cured’ yet. I still struggle but one move technique helps me alot. And thanks to this new email this also helps and give us courage and confident . You are really a big help to person like us. I want to received more emails from you. I love it so much. Liza
Heidi
Dear Barry, thank you SO MUCH for your encouraging newsletters. Looking back, I think I started having anxiety about 3 years ago when I occasionally felt shortness of breaths. I had many doctor visits, but no one found out my problems. About 8 months ago, I had my first not once but multiple panic attacks. Within a few weeks following my panic attacks, my life was completely upside down. My anxiety was completely out of control, which I thought my life was going to be over. I was going crazy and thought I was going to die in any seconds. I eventually had to take time off from work because I was afraid to go anywhere with the fear that I would go crazy in any moment. During a 2 months period when I was out from work, I took medications as well as received countless counsels from different psychotherapists, but my situation seemed to get worse instead of better. After going through like hell for about 5 weeks, I decided to read books and looked up online for anxiety information, which I happened to come across your website. Within 4 weeks, I read through 10 books as well as many online resources related to anxiety. When I began to educate myself more about anxiety, I found out I was diagnosed with agoraphobia. Then I started to do learn how cope with my problem such as breathing correctly, practicing meditations, doing yoga, and training my mind to think cognitively, lastly but not least, trying to slow down myself a bit by getting more sleep and not to be too harsh on myself. Amazing, within a few weeks, I was able to control my anxiety without the help of pills. I was able to go back to work shortly afterward. From time to time, my anxiety still comes back especially when I am under stresses. Sometimes, I still get depressed and wonder why it keeps coming back?? However, I think I am getting better and better each time when I had to re-deal with my anxiety.
Again, THANK YOU so much for what you have done for all of us and those who are dealing with similar problems. Your encouragement words remind us that it is ok to have anxiety and that can only make us become stronger people.
sara
thanks alot for understanding me i regularly read ur mails…i helps
mohanned
thx again fir your concern ,it helped alot, at least i feel that i have someone who are realy understands wht i been experincing . all i want is just keep on communicating with me always ,so i feel that im not lonely
most porfound thx
freddie
hey man thanks for this, i hope to get more advice on this until i can afford the program
Melissa
Hey thank you very much. You’ve just made me feel better about myself haha. I wasn’t going toread it because anxiety is the last thing I want to be thinking of but as I kept going a smile started to appear on my face. Once again thank you. I don’t feel lonely as I used to. Thank you 🙂
Arup Kumar Bhattacharya
Dear Sir,
These are really very helpful to me. I am greatful to you and extend my heartfelt gratitude for your valuable support. Please keep guiding me in future also so as to keep my anxiety under control and learn more from you.
Thanks and regards,
Arup
Stephan
Barry, thank for this website and informative information you send through to me, I’ve been on a rollercoaster ride since last year November thoughts of dying, fear losing control, strange symptoms right through my entire body…..it was sometimes scary what anxiety could do to your body. I’ve been placed on medication for 4 months by a psychiatrist and therapy at the psychologist. Your post know and then kept me positive to look ahead for a better future and to become a stronger person through this all. All has been going okay the last couple of weeks and could only get better.
marck
Barry sir, your really great I feel on top of situation every time I read your E-mail, yes keep it up GOD SPEED and more POWER sir…
Adams
You have really helped me through your texts.My panic attacks are almost gone .I am knowing battling with being sometimes over anxious.
God bless you.
Adams
sehrish
thank you for writing to me in such a detail.And i know that i cannot thank you enough.I AM ANXIOUSLY WAITING FOR MORE EMAILS FROM YOU ON HOW TO FIGHT ANXIETY AND HOW TO REGAIN HER CONFIDENCE.My mother is constantly having these panic attacks.She is scared of being alone ,wants me to be with her all day.Anxiety has been with her since last 15 yrs and she has taken alot of medication for it which cures her for some time,but as soon as she leaves the medicines she has these attacks again.Have sleeping disorders and cannot sleep without the sleeping pills.All day she is scared and wants to get rid of these attacks and cannot stop thinking about them.
keep writing to me as your help is required and appreciated…
waiting for a reply from you ANXIOUSLY
Ronah
Thank you very much… your advices really help me… God Bless!
Beatriz
Thanks for your letter , I wish I could buy a book of yours from a book store.
God bless you.
Haiasblacky
hey thanks sooooooo much for ur messages acutally when i be share to u that is for someone i know he is a football player and me too am a student we have same things about panic that is why i entered to ur website for i get less panic and him too if u can help us in this i would be so thanks and glad for this …
Manish Naidu
I want to thank Barry personally for the free and very helpful advice about panic and anxiety attacks! I really enjoy reading the emails and it is SO wonderful to receive them free of charge
Tammy Gibbons
Thanks Barry, I am so grateful for this. I am generally well but want to try your new technique. As I have a little problem here and there. Also I am still trying to convince a very religious friend to at least try your methods.
Her family keeps telling her she is depressed but I am sure what she discribes to me is anxiety and GAD.
I am so thankful for Panic Away. I thank God!
kathy vertrees
Thank you for contacting me. I feel good that I have not been forgotten. I still suffer from anxiety everyday with a nervous stomach and butterflies. Think too much which brings on more anxiety. I know I am OK – I’ve been living through each day but there are lots of reasons why I am so anxious. Not real sure of my self, worry about relation with husband, etc. Afraid to be by myself because I do think too much about things.
Thank you so much for contacting me. Look forward to receiving your excerpts.
Kathy
Pakize
thank you Barry
Aileen44
Barry thank you for all your help with your e-mails. At the begining of this year i had my first panic attack and i didn’t know what was happening i was on my own and i felt like i was going to die. As the time went on i was suffering from more and more attacks and they were becoming more frequent. I was getting up to four attacks in a day. I was taking lexotan and prozac which my doctor prescribed for me. I was highly addicted to lexotan and felt if i didn’t have these tablets i would get an attack and die. I found your emails very helpful in my recovery i have not taken any medication in over three months and i have not had a panic attack in three months. I had three sessions of hypnotherapy which i feel i am cured from panic attacks, i can go anywhere now and i have more confidence than i ever had. Your help gave me light on the days where i couldn’t face people and gave me hope and there is help and cures out there for panic attacks, i found everyday a struggle, Thank you
Michael
Hi Barry,
Thank you for remembering me. I really need some support. My life is up and down. I need to be headed in the right direction.
Thank you.
Karen V.
Barry,
Thanks for making contact. I am looking forward to receiving the “anxiety help” newsletter.
Simone Tara Glare
Hi Barry,
Thank You for taking the time to connect with me about Anxiety,
Its refreshing to know I’m not alone.
Ive been suffering with Acute Anxiety for 13 years, I’m on prescription medication, to ease the dread of my panic… My whole family on my mums side has some sort of mental illness, i through my depression and anxiety have in the past resorted to self harm, which i’m totally not proud off.
I found through out my life having an anxiety disorder, makes it hard to have healthy relationships, Ive just met a man that i love so deeply and i wont let my anxiety win…
its amazing how many people actually suffer from this horrible illness…
I will look forward to hearing from you again, and I’m interested in your methods of becoming anxious free, that will be the biggest gift i could ever receive apart from the lord…God bless you…..
Annlouise
Hi Barry thank you so much for your letter, it helps me so much I am doing alot better at the minute which is good, i have lost some friends because they thoguht i was FAKING the attack and just wanted attention but there gone and its a big weight off my shoulders. You make me belive in my self and that i will get over this thanks.
Gary
God Bless you Barry,i,ve suffered this crazy sickness for 40 years and everything you wrote is so true,and to others out there i want to say it won’t kill you but it is at times make you feel like your in a pit of hell,but i well tell you also that the more you work on yourself and fight back it well not eat you up,so get up and fight cause this is the way you well win.and please do what your doctor says,Barry as openned a door here so take advantage and listen to him.God Bess you all.please keep holding on,you can win.Gary
Manuel
Thanks for all the support that you bring to the people as you said it´s hard almost imposible to find someone that can understand you, this is more than support group , in my case I´ve learned many things to control my selft and make my life normal at least learn to live whit this sometimes, I feel much better and I hope many people whom visit this page can put panic away from a long time !!!!!
Grace
Dear Barry
I’m very grateful for the wonderful encouragement i received from your letters. It was actually a sister that had the panic disorder. She can now sleep in her house with her children. It was bad but she is getting over it. Thank you very much
Kim
If I had a million dollars to give you barry, I so would!!! From reading your articles, and through prayer I have improved soooo much!! You have made my life so much more enjoyable!! I always look forward to reading your emails. Thank you so much for your advice, you truly are an amazing soul!!
Claudine
Bonjour Barry,
Last night i had a major panic attack, i had not had one in months…not of this intensity, my body would not stop overeating, my arms were numd, my head dazed, my stomach had trembles, and bad nausea…to tell you the truth i have no idea where it came from, i was sitting working on the computer and bang…i felt the hot flashes and trembling in my stomach…it got bad to the point i called 911….usually i can calm down, and talk myself down…but nothing worked, i even took 2 calming pills and nothing…i started lowering my Effexor Xr since the 14th of oct 2010…but all was going great…last night is a mystery to me, and really scares me…is there something wrong with me, oris it really just anxiety coming back, but stronger…when i think all is moving forward to better days, i get hit with a ton of bricks.
I would really appreciate and need your imput on this Barry, and is this normal…
Thank you for all your help ! ! !
Silvana Harris
Hi Barry Since I first got your letters, I have come a long way, in the beginning I was having everything you told me I would have and feel, but now 8 months later I can actually see the other side of the storm,
I still have my anxiety on off but thanks to you I now know how to control it, and it pretty much goes away quiet quickly. Also my panic attacks are gone completely I feel like a different person, as I’m no longer scared to go anywhere. So thankyou so much for your letters they continue to change my life, and yes please send more.
Silvana Harris
Shiralee
Barry thank you so much for taking the time out to offer such encourangement to us all.Even though you are so far from me in South Africa i really feel as though there is someone close who understands. May you be blessed with great things.
Tahira
barry thanx for the reply.i wat shre with you my problems and want no the advices.very soon i will write you.
but tel me one thng when a person dont understand you how can i make him to understand abt me?
till nest thanks and wait for the reply.
take care n regards.
Louise
Thank you for restoring my life back to normal, until I had reached and read your panicaway website,
I reallly didn’t understand what was going on. I blamed menopause and thyroid problems and had no idea that I was living in a totally anxious state. Thank you for all your insight, information and care.
I am now back to driving my car and feeling “normal” once again. Love and Light to you Barry, you have shown me how to take charge of my life, when I was truly lost! Thank you for showing me the way. 🙂
Tyler
Wow, ur anazing. I can’t thank u enough for the help and ur creative way of thinking to help people out with this scary and real experience. Lucky for me though, is my mom has them too, so we both are there for each other in those scary, desperate times in need. I literally have lost my strange phobia I had 8 mos. ago THANKS TO YOU!! God Bless!
Tyler
Wow, ur amazing. I can’t thank u enough for the help and ur creative way of thinking to help people out with this scary and real experience. Lucky for me though, is my mom has them too, so we both are there for each other in those scary, desperate times in need. I literally have lost my strange phobia I had 8 mos. ago THANKS TO YOU!! God Bless!
Yesefa
Hi, I must say it hasn’t been easy at all trying to go through life with anxiety and the loneliness that comes with it.Having to wind yourself everyday to be able to go through a normal day.Being faced with the misconceptions and insensitivity of the people around you.Fighting everyday to regain control over your life, to try to smile to even manage a hollow laughter…It truly hasn’t been easy but you are right.
It has made me a more understanding person,making me more able and willing to listen to the needs of others.It’s even giving me a new path in life- not being able to get help from anyone around is something I’ve faced.Not everyone will be as lucky as I am to find you.The question is,”who would be there for them”?
I have been beaten,crushed and belittled by GAD but I STILL have one thing… LIFE and THAT makes a difference…because, so far as I’m still alive, I’ll keep fighting,fighting for my rights.My right to happiness and a healthy life,a peaceful soul,a life free from worry(it is not free of worry but free from worry),for me to wake up and be happy to be alive and to look forward to a beautiful day!That’s what I’ll keep fighting for so that I’ll be there for others when they need me.
I may be down now but so far as there’s life,there’s hope for the future…thanks Barry for being there!
Darko
I want to thank you for all the advices and tell you that you helped me so much really…
i think there is just a little of anxiety to be resolved and to be perfect…
thx
Barry Astrauskas
Hi Joe,
Barry here. Please keep in touch with the e – mails cos they are of some help to me. It has been some time since u last messaged me, but u being in touch recently has come at a time when i am more Anxious at this time of year. Not because it’s Christmas….but because of the dark nights.
I am a Gulf War Veteran too and i am speaking to people about my combat stress. But my combat stress and the Anxiety attacks at times are different from each other. I could be sitting at home watching the t.v and then i feel anxious for no apparent reason.
I know that Anxiety is all in the mind but i feel that at my age ( 36 ) i should not be going through these problems. I should have not a care in the world, but i wish that was the case. So Joe, please keep in touch with good advice and support cos i feel it’s what i need just now.
With Compliments….
Barry
Mike
Joe
Thanks alot for these newsletters i feel almost 100 percent better because of it it made me relize i am OK! Thanks again!
justin
hey barry thanks so much for that, it really helped me you are a great friend and are a awesome person i thank you for all you do. may god bless you in all you do… you are helping to make a differents in peoples lives everyday..
Marcelle "Marti" Scott
My daughter & I down loaded the book. And honestly I have only skimmed over it. My daughter found you by accident. But of all the CDs & books I have ordered. I can’t believe how easy you made it for me to stop panic. I’m doing at least 80% better. I suffer from agoraphobia, but I believe that will be gone soon also. I’ve been going places with my daughter I thought I would never go. Staying alone is no longer a problem for me. And it’s so simple. Just invite it, who would have ever thought?
When we ordered the book we didn’t realize we could have gotten the rest for 20.00 dollars more. If I could order the rest for the difference, I would love to have the CDs & such.
But at any rate thank you. You have helped me & my daughter more than you’ll ever know. Never thought it would be so easy!!!! God Bless you!
Janie
Hello, thanks for thinking of me. I am half way through your program I purchased and it is an eye opener. Since May 2010, I started taking Lexapro, 1st 10mg and now on 20mg and I have my life back. I have never felt better. This medication balances the chemical imbalance in the brain and it sure helped me. My fear of life is gone, I can entertain with ease and love it. Your program and my courage and ambition for life is all positive. Thank you, God bless, keep up the good work.
Janie
jo farci
thank you for your post,i find it very helpful. Jo